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64M is rather small to run a server. Are you running the MySQL server on the same box? Is a GUI running on the box too?
The other thing to do is to make sure you are running the PHP module and not as CGI. CGI will spark a lot of processes.
RAM is cheap and the most beneficial to a happy server. You don't need a GUI login on a server. You can also see better performance by compiling the Linux kernel, Apache, and PHP from source and only include relevant components. But that isn't for novices.
no max no bling. goes double for mik. triple for the insane aliases of said lunatics
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Not around here anymore. Way too many idiots, so sad.