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The problems you see are just css settings. ex.blue uses white hypertext links for the user menu. you can just change them to whatever color you want, then they will show up.
ex.min doesn't use anything fancy for hover tags on menus, just normal color changes on links. just change the style.css file
you are free to adjust the colors/layout any way you wish.
if you have dreamweaver, or another html editor, just edit them in that. you can also download css editors.
simplecss is not a bad one. i think you can find it on download.com for free.